Responding to a Request to Keep the Relationship Secret
A request to keep an ordinary relationship milestone private is a functional isolation tactic, whether or not it's framed that way. Name a secrecy request explicitly rather than accepting it quietly, and keep at least one person outside the relationship informed regardless.
Where It Applies
Platform-SpecificMost relevant on the specific platforms listed below, where the pattern this addresses actually shows up.
What It Counters
Targeted Counter-MoveDirectly counters one or more specific manipulation tactics, listed below.
The Steps
- 01
Notice when a request for privacy extends beyond the platform itself to the relationship or its details.
- 02
Say the observation out loud: "You're asking me to keep this from people I'd normally tell."
- 03
Keep telling at least one trusted person what's happening, even if asked not to.
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